we watched finding dory the other day, y’all. i cried. what if magnolia gets lost + can’t find me, what if someone takes her, what if she’s in an accident, what if she gets sick, what if she doesn’t follow Christ? what if…

there are so many what if’s. i told richard i’ve worried more in the last seven months that my entire life beforehand. i know i’m not alone, i know all mamas have been anxious for their entire life after babies. surely i’m not the only one who’s thought about leashing until she’s 27? okay maybe i am, whatevs.

but i also know that all of the what if’s do actually happen. every single time i see an article or social media share about something crazy happening to a child, i fight the urge to snatch magnolia up out of her bed and just hold her. guys, she hasn’t even begun to live yet. what on earth am i going to do. i don’t feel like it’s an unhealthy amount of worry, but then again isn’t any amount?

before her i threw caution to the wind. i mean i’m not scared of most things (if you know my two fears just hush + move along), and i’m for sure not scared of most people. yes, i know there are troubled folks in this world but maybe they just need someone who’s not out right terrified of their existence. and yes, i’m typically pretty irrational with safety.

but august came, and man did things change.

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philippians 4:6 – don’t worry about anything; instead, pray about everything. tell God what you need, and thank him for all he has done.

1 peter 5:7 – give all your worries and cares to God, for He cares about you.

matthew 6:25 – that is why I tell you not to worry about everyday life.

john 14:27 – I am leaving you with a gift—peace of mind and heart. And the peace I give is a gift the world cannot give. So don’t be troubled or afraid.

isaiah 41:10 – Don’t be afraid, for I am with you.Don’t be discouraged, for I am your God.I will strengthen you and help you.I will hold you up with my victorious right hand.


He tells us over and over again not to worry. and these are just a small handful of times.we certainly should trust God + we for sure can’t live in a perpetual state of worry. and at the end of the day, she isn’t even mine. she like everything else in our lives is His, and only He knows the plans He has for her. 

so sweet friends, how do you combat anxiety? how do you make yourself trust them to the one they belong to? how are you not INSANE?? leave us all some tips in the comments. 



  1. Karen
    6th March 2017 / 10:13 pm

    Great post Nichole. I can totally relate. I think what helped me most in the area of worry was – and I know this sounds trivial, but bear with me- making a list. Several years ago I made a list of the actual bad things that have happened to me and my family- the heart-wrenching, sudden unexpected bad things- and on the other side of the paper, I wrote the big things that I had WORRIED would happen over the years. Do you know, there was not one single match between what I’d worried about and what actually happened? Then I thought of the hours I’d wasted over worrying over things that didn’t happen- and how I’d never even thought to worry about the bad things that really DID happen. So I finally realized what a waste of time, energy, and mental stress that worry is, and doesn’t accomplish anything except stressing out the momma (me) and therefore stressing out my whole family. Praying for you. Great blog.

  2. 7th March 2017 / 2:47 am

    It’s hard, so so so hard. Fear of what could happen to my kids is probably the biggest battle I face on a regular basis.

    On a non-spiritual level, I really found the book Free Range Kids to be a helpful read.

    On a spiritual level, I just have to ask for mercy, pray pray over them, and remind myself that worrying doesn’t actually help anything. 🙁

  3. Karen
    8th March 2017 / 10:56 pm

    I thought once my four children were all grown, I could just sit back, relax and not have to worry about another thing. I mean, I kept them alive when they were young, so everything would be great from then on, right? But then the grandchildren came along – all 10 of them! The level of worry about them just went through the roof! What if they didn’t get buckled into their car seat correctly? What if their mom fed them a French fry that was too long or had a pointy end on it and they choke? Why in the world would my daughter and son-in-law buy my 16 year old grandson a car of his own (even though we bought each of our children cars when they were 16!)? Or even worse, what if their parents weren’t doing everything in their power to raise my precious grandchildren to love God with all their hearts and to seek Him daily??? Anyway, you get the idea…. The thing that gets me through every worry I have is to remember that we are told 365 times in the Bible not to fear. God knows me. He knows I need to be told the same thing every single day so He gave me the same command for every day of the year. Fear not….all day, every day.

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